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One MONTH!

Yesterday, January 22, 2011, marks ONE MONTH that Nora has been home with us.  It seems so much longer!  She has adjusted so well!  In our adoption training, I think they gave us several worse case scenarios, which left us apprehensive.  However, with those horror scenes in mind, our transition time has been wonderful.  We were warned of troubles sleeping and eating, which are the two biggies for kids who change cultures.  But Nora has slept well since day number one, in her own bed with hardly a blip on the radar.  There are foods she likes a lot (chicken, beef, garlic mashed potatoes and pineapple) and foods that she will eat, but are not her favorite (spaghetti, lasagna, and green salad).  We think she was slightly addicted to salt and sugar.  She asked to add them to everything!  I mean everything!  That has been put to rest along with her coffee drinking.  I still heat her milk for her each morning, but it now has chocolate Ovaltine…. like warm cocoa in the morning.  :o)

Add a comment January 23, 2011

I’ll be there for You!

Today I went to lunch with a girlfriend who is also an adoptive mom.  She told me her “gotch ya” stories and I almost burst into tears each time when she received her babies!  It is so awesome how God brings families together.  I love to hear each story!  Somewhere throughout our conversation, I told her about a group of adoption maniacs who all live in Tennessee.  (You know who you are!) I read their blogs and have become friends with them.  I am supremely envious when each of their new babies have come home in the past six months from Colombia, China and Ethiopia… and they ALL go to the airport to celebrate the homecoming of a newly adopted child.  It’s awesome!  Anyway, my friend promised me that she would come to the airport even if we come home at 3:00 in the morning!  So sweet.  Made me want to cry again!  So thankful for supportive friends!

1 comment November 16, 2010

Her Name is Beautiful!

We got THE call this morning!  Our girl is gorgeous!  She is so perfect, I cannot even tell you!  She just turned seven and no, she doesn’t have all her baby teeth, but I’m OK with that.  The only measurements we have are a year old, so we asked for new sizes!  I think all the size 5 clothes might work!  Bonus!  And her name is beautiful…. and it means light.  Perfect. 

I’m exhausted and thrilled and teary and overjoyed and overwhelmed and giddy and I keep staring at this darling little face on the computer screen!

5 comments October 16, 2010

Hurry Up and Wait Again

Last Thursday I received an email from our agency, Gladney, asking for our final I-171H from USCIS!  That is good news…. it means we have been matched with are darling Zaza!  We were told that THE CALL should come next week. “Yeah,” she sarcastically thought in her head, “I’ve heard THAT before!” But I think it might be true this time! 

So this new alternate reality of waiting with some renewed hope for our almost-four-year adoption saga to be coming to the apex of the journey, is draining.  These are a few of the fleeting thoughts I’ve had to deal with lately:

We need to pick a middle name for her!!!!  Yes, we will keep her first name, as she’s probably become quite attached to it after 5 or 6 years.  We bestow on all our children family names for the middle name.  Someone mentioned to me lately that Linda would be a fine name.  I had NEVER thought of it until that moment.  Hmmmmmmm.   (Linda is my name, in case you didn’t know.)

Where will we hang her bath towel???  There is only one bar in the kid’s bathroom.

Will she be able to get up on her bed, or do we need to buy a stool???  Oh, I saw a darling stool at Marshall’s with butterflies on it! Her bed is quite tall.  Hmmmmm.

What if Rick is flying when THE CALL comes???  We’ve discussed that one.  We’re taking the call immediately and he can see his little girl when he gets home.  I’m all for family togetherness, but I’m not for waiting any more!  At all.

I’ll keep you posted!

5 comments October 7, 2010

USCIS……my new friends I call every day.

We were a tad on the tardy side sending in our second application for our I600A, a grandfathered application because our adoption has taken so long.  I sent it off with three weeks to spare.  Well, I have since learned that you send it to Texas and someone opens the packet, checks money amounts and expiry dates, sends notices and then eventually sends the file off to Missouri. 

Well, we received a Notice of Action stating that our application was being suspended because we sent the $670 for the I600A application, but not the $170 for biometrics.  (That’s fancy talk for fingerprints.) 

Our fingerprints don’t expire until December, so I didn’t send the extra $170.  This confused them….. greatly.  I have called and talked to nice people at the USCIS offices seven or eight times now trying to get this cleared up.  Finally on Friday, I asked for a supervisor…. I was done getting no where with those lower on the totem pole.  Voila!  It worked!  I got a call today from the officer assigned to our file and she indeed confirmed that no biometrics fees were needed.  Yes! 

BUT, she did inform me that our Home Study Extension was more than six months old and we needed an updated one.  Great!  I called our local agency who did our homestudy (all three times now) and they are taking care of business in a flash! 

Thankfully, the officer also told me that the date they receive the application needs to be before our old 171H expires, and we’re good.  We made it by two weeks!  So all is good.  Just tardy… again.

What will I do all day when Zaza is finally home???

1 comment September 14, 2010

Don’t Get Your Panties in a Wad!

One of my favorite lines from the movie The Blindside. I’m taking that advice today, as I just got an email from our case worker.  Today is Day #4 of our 30 day window to receive our referral call.  Here is what she had to say about our referral call: 

“I can almost guarantee it won’t be any time in the next two weeks.  Normally we get a call after you have been matched to a child so we know the documents are on the way to the translator.  Then it takes about a week to translate before I have the information.  I haven’t heard anything from our in-country team so that is why I assume in won’t be in the next two weeks.”

I’ve kind of assumed that the 30 day window for the referral call was just a 30 day countdown until the call.  As with everything else involving international adoption…. the wait has been LONG.

It’s all good.

3 comments September 2, 2010

I’m Losing Sleep

This is exactly like the end of a pregnancy…. I wake up and my mind goes CRAZY!  And I can’t go back to sleep.  I’m just not going to the bathroom every twenty minutes like big-belly pregnancy

We are exactly one week from the 30-day mark from when our file left ICBF and was sent to Valle del Cauca.  We’ve been told we will get the referral call within 30-60 days.  That could be NEXT WEEK!  After all this waiting for almost four years…. you’d think I’d be plenty ready.  But I’m all jittery and anxious and restless.  The heightened anxiety level has completely erased the minimal Spanish that I knew only a month ago.  I’m not sure what to do about that.  I think it’s too late for ginkgo biloba!   Ha ha!

I’ve finished Zaza’s tea-table and it has three coats of minwax for protection.  It probably needs about eight coats!  Not wanting the painting and decorating to end… I bought a little seat from an adult vanity.  I’m going to turn it into a sink and stove top for Zaza’s little kitchen in her room.  I need to keep these hands busy!!!

Add a comment August 23, 2010

Final Fingerprints Done!

How can a simple plan of getting fingerprints done turn into a whole-day saga????  Because it’s the Crosbys trying to get it done…. and it’s for an international adoption… so you take the normal time and multiply it by 27.  :o) 

I thought I was so ready.  Then, we ended up with only one working car today.  So I borrowed a car. (Thanks, Dad!)  I went to get the money order for the FBI and my bank wanted me to pay them $5 for the service.  GAH!  I went to bank #2…. same thing… $5.  I know, in the grand scope of the cost of this adoption, $5 is NOTHING….. but I couldn’t pay it.  I ended up at Walmart…. 60 CENTS.  Thank you very much!

Heading down the highway to pick up Rick at his office… I realized that I didn’t remember where his office was.  I’ve only been there once.  So I looked for my cell phone… which didn’t appear to make the trip with me.  Bummer.  I did find his office and as I pulled up I heard my phone ringing.  It was under the driver’s seat.  Good!  Off to the Police station….. then the second police station.  It seems that in the time our fingerprints expired, fingerprinting in Phoenix, Arizona moved about 2 miles east of the last location.  We arrived and stood in line. 

When it was our turn to talk to the nice lady behind the glass, we showed I.D., signed our names and I wrote the check for $12.  Well, it seems your check has to have a number in the top right corner in order for it to be accepted at the Police station.  It was from the account I just opened and the new checks with numbers are not in my possession yet.  I wrote another check from a different account.  Fine.

We go and sit in the waiting area and Rick decides he needs to go visit the little boy’s room.  As soon as he gets behind the door with the stick man on it, they call his name.  Of course.  Eventually he made it through the correct secret door to be metal-detected.  I did as well.  I almost didn’t pass due to the cell phone in my pocket.  Whew.  Rick stayed in the fingerprinting room waiting for my prints to be completed…. which we found out is a no-no.  No loitering, even if it is your wife.  Busted by the police!

Off to find a computer because I forgot to copy all the FBI info for the fingerprinting cards.  We stopped at the flight center where Rick’s plane is. Finally, we were headed back to Rick’s office and we somehow ended up on the only road in downtown Phoenix with traffic at a stop-n-go pace that is currently being coated with new, oily and sticky rock pavement.  Dad’s car collects many rocks, oil and tar.  Great!  Rick takes the quickest side street to get off the tar trail and tries to take the highway to his office.  There must have been an accident on the highway because it was at a standstill.  (This whole trip was supposed to take 20 minutes.)

Eventually I drop Rick off and head to FedEx.  I have the wrong envelope with the wrong address form… all filled out, of course.  But I don’t have my FedEx account number.  I phoned home and thankfully I talked my 11-year-old son through finding the number and reading it to me. Thank the Lord, I taught the boy how to read!

And I returned my parent’s car… about two hours later than planned with a few more black marks than when I picked it up.  But our FBI fingerprints are sent off and will be in West Virginia tomorrow!

4 comments August 13, 2010

Adoption “Fun”draising

When we acted on our call to adopt a little Colombian princess, we had no idea how God would accomplish this great dream in our hearts.  We have been amazed, amused, humbled and blessed!  At the moment 82% of our funds are in, but with all international adoptions, we have one last large lump to raise.  I’ve been inspired to get Bags For Zaza rolling again.  My sister-in-law, Jennie, started it two years ago…. sewing messenger bags, purses and totes to raise money for Zaza to come home.  I believe BFZ raised over $6000!!!  Then we all got busy and overwhelmed with life and it came to a screeching halt.  I’ve been cutting out bags whilst on vacation, so I can sew when we get home!  I’ll keep you posted for upcoming auctions.

We also have been encouraged by friends and neighbors who are jumping on the bandwagon to bring our little girl home.  Our neighborhood group is scheming as well.  Wonderful friends! Please pray that God will unveil where the remainder of the adoption funds are hidden…. while we work like it depends on us, but pray and believe like we know it depends on God.

3 comments June 17, 2010

Needing a Wardrobe

Since I’ve finished homeschooling and am impatiently waiting for Zaza, I have been making things for her.  I made a dolly and now I’m mass producing a line of clothing that will soon need its own wardrobe.  I play my Spanish cds on the laptop while I sew, and I stare at the map of Colombia above the sewing machine…. wondering what part of the country she is in.  Here’s the latest:

We can’t wait to kiss your soft cheeks, Zaza!

2 comments June 7, 2010

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