Archive for September 2010

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Add a comment September 30, 2010

Pregnancy Realization

Today was day #60….. the last day of the window of time when we were supposed to get our referral call for our adoption of our little princess from Colombia.  Did we get a call?  No.  Did we get any indication of any adoption news?  No.  Disappointing?  Yes.

Then I started recollecting the situations surrounding all of my other pregnancies.  Yes, this is a pregnancy of the heart, not the womb, but it is ever so real and genuine…. bringing forth a child to our home… forever.  Both of my first two children were,….. um, ……tardy in their arrivals.  I was induced with each of them on the TENTH day after the due date.  Yes, ten days late.  They weren’t even trying to come out yet.  At all.  Kid #3 was only five days later than the due date, but also induced, so we don’t actually know how long he would have stayed inside either.

So this child is proving to be a true Crosby….. tardy, but worth waiting for.  I must admit though, that 3 years 10 months and 4 days is EVER so much longer than we had originally thought or planned on.  If patience is a virtue, I’m a virtuous woman.

Yes, I called our case worker several times today hoping for a thread of information.  I did leave a message, and I’ll begin my calls again tomorrow morning.  They do find out families have been matched with a child two weeks prior to the referral call….. so they should know SOMETHING!

I’ll keep you posted.

2 comments September 30, 2010

Waiting for the 817 Area Code

We are on day #25 of our 30 day window when our referral call will come.  This is exhausting.  My hot pink cell phone is glued to my body from the moment my eyes pop open until 3:00 p.m.  The call will come from Texas and they are two hours ahead of us… and they stop working at 5:00.  I breathe a disappointed sigh of relief every day at 3:00.  “OK, another day down.  Another day closer to the call!” 

Fridays at 3:00 totally wear me out.  It means I have to wait until Monday morning.  Last Friday afternoon I collapsed on the couch and didn’t recover until Sunday afternoon.  Good grief!  This is like the last few weeks of pregnancy when you’re so tired you’re cross-eyed and frazzle-brained.

We found out this week about some unexpected fees…. to the tune of an extra $1840.  If you’re the praying type, please pray.  If you’re not the praying type…. I don’t recommend adopting internationally.  It’s a faith walk.  But faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things unseen.

Hold on, Zaza!  We’re coming for you in November!  Buckle your seatbelt, sweetheart, there’s a ton of love coming your way!  XOXO

Add a comment September 24, 2010

Neighborhood Group Garage Sale Report

Our neighborhood group from our church, CCV, is awesome!  They came together and put on one supremely successful garage sale to help with our adoption funds!  So far we have raised $1,675!! And we pulled out a bunch (meaning 200 pieces) of designer clothing that is being consigned tomorrow.  That should bring in several hundred more dollars to put the total over $2,000!!!  The date that was chosen for the sale was during my annual scrapbooking retreat… so I wasn’t even around!!!  The troops turned out en masse and took care of everything!  We are so blessed to be surrounded with such supportive friends!

Thank you!!!  Thank you!!! Thank you!!!

(I realize I ended almost every sentence with an exclamation mark, but I needed to exclaim how wonderful our group is!)

Add a comment September 21, 2010

USCIS……my new friends I call every day.

We were a tad on the tardy side sending in our second application for our I600A, a grandfathered application because our adoption has taken so long.  I sent it off with three weeks to spare.  Well, I have since learned that you send it to Texas and someone opens the packet, checks money amounts and expiry dates, sends notices and then eventually sends the file off to Missouri. 

Well, we received a Notice of Action stating that our application was being suspended because we sent the $670 for the I600A application, but not the $170 for biometrics.  (That’s fancy talk for fingerprints.) 

Our fingerprints don’t expire until December, so I didn’t send the extra $170.  This confused them….. greatly.  I have called and talked to nice people at the USCIS offices seven or eight times now trying to get this cleared up.  Finally on Friday, I asked for a supervisor…. I was done getting no where with those lower on the totem pole.  Voila!  It worked!  I got a call today from the officer assigned to our file and she indeed confirmed that no biometrics fees were needed.  Yes! 

BUT, she did inform me that our Home Study Extension was more than six months old and we needed an updated one.  Great!  I called our local agency who did our homestudy (all three times now) and they are taking care of business in a flash! 

Thankfully, the officer also told me that the date they receive the application needs to be before our old 171H expires, and we’re good.  We made it by two weeks!  So all is good.  Just tardy… again.

What will I do all day when Zaza is finally home???

1 comment September 14, 2010

Our Adoption Timeline (again)

I don’t have this in my sidebar, so I thought I’d update it here.

Nov. 2006   Started looking at agencies

Feb. 12, 2007   Sent Application to Commonwealth

May 9   I-600A Application sent

Jun. 14   Homestudy completed

July   Psychological Testing and Report

Aug. 29   Received I-171H

Oct. 20   Dossier sent to Colombia

Jan. 25, 2008   Approved by ICBF in Colombia (Yippy!)

Jun. 14   Update USCIS fingerprints

Aug. 5   Our agency Commonwealth Adoptions Int’l Closed

Sep. 25   Signed with Gladney Center for Adoptions

Nov. 8   Update and Addendum to Homestudy Visit

Jan. 20, 2009  Home Study Extension Apostilled and sent for translation

Feb. 20, Sent 2nd copy of Apostilled Homestudy Extension sent for translation

June 1, Moved to the 5-6 year old list at ICBF

June 10,  Rec’d I-171H (again)

July 7, We are #23 on the waitlist

Sept 9,  Updated USCIS Fingerprints

Oct. 29, We are #19 on the waitlist

Nov. 6, HepA/B shots

Dec.  Met with our Social Worker to Update Homestudy

Jan. 20, 2010  We are #15 on the waitlist

Mar. 2010 Update Psychological Report

June 3rd, We are #10 on the waitlist

July  Requesting renewal of I600A

July 29th, We are #0 and our file is being sent to a region.

August 6th, Zaza is in the department of Valle del Cauca!

August 13th, FBI fingerprinting (again)

August  Talking to USCIS every other day until our I600A is taken off of hold status!  (They think we need to send money for fingerprinting that is already done.)

August  Redoing paperwork, getting notarized and apostilled again: Employment Verifications, Medicals, Name Change Verifications, etc. etc.

1 comment September 3, 2010

Don’t Get Your Panties in a Wad!

One of my favorite lines from the movie The Blindside. I’m taking that advice today, as I just got an email from our case worker.  Today is Day #4 of our 30 day window to receive our referral call.  Here is what she had to say about our referral call: 

“I can almost guarantee it won’t be any time in the next two weeks.  Normally we get a call after you have been matched to a child so we know the documents are on the way to the translator.  Then it takes about a week to translate before I have the information.  I haven’t heard anything from our in-country team so that is why I assume in won’t be in the next two weeks.”

I’ve kind of assumed that the 30 day window for the referral call was just a 30 day countdown until the call.  As with everything else involving international adoption…. the wait has been LONG.

It’s all good.

3 comments September 2, 2010

Time Flies!

September 2010